DIY ECO-CLEANING RECIPES WHEN YOU HAVE A BABY

People rarely care what kind of product they use to clean at home, most of them barely pay attention to all the harmful chemicals in the structure of their cleaners, but once you have a child you will try to start paying more attention to what kind of cleaning recipes you apply at home to keep baby safe.

People rarely care what kind of product they use to clean at home, most of
them barely pay attention to all the harmful chemicals in the structure of
their cleaners, but once you have a child you will try to start paying more
attention to what kind of cleaning recipes you apply at home to keep baby safe.

If you look at those back stickers on the cleaning products you will
probably notice a lot of warnings saying to keep away from children and the
harmful side effects they can cause if they come in close contact with
them.

As always we will count on our faithful natural cleaners- they represent no
danger to children and some are arguably considered even more effective
than the chemicals-based ones, those cleaners are the “usual suspects”-
lemon, white vinegar, baking soda and if you need something even more
stronger- hydrogen peroxide. Using these natural ingredients we can make
ourselves a lot of different types of DIY cleaners with strong cleaning
powers.

Using Baby Safe Homemade Cleaners

The use of home-made cleaners all from natural products are the best
resolution for your cleaning chores. The baby’s skin and brain are
especially vulnerable to chemicals and we strongly recommend you avoid
using them with your child around the house. Those DIY natural cleaners
will also improve the air quality in your home and decreases the amount of
air pollutants caused by the regular, store-bought cleaners. Avoid those at
any cost, because babies have faster respiration, which means they will
inhale faster and more of the pollutants.

Baby Safe Dish Washing

To perform a proper cleaning on your cookware and avoid the harmful
chemicals, you will need sea salt mixed with lemon juice or baking soda and
water mixed into a paste. It is better and safe to use those given that you
spent a lot of time in the kitchen with your baby in arms or in the
stroller. It will also ease your mind on the licking action that takes
place on whatever item’s close to your baby.

Baby Safe Laundry

When doing laundry and especially when using a fabric softener we suggest
you make your own, as the regular one contains lots of chemicals that can
endanger the well-being of our child- you will need one part vinegar[2] and
two parts water to achieve the desired result.

To clean the mirrors and the glass at home using natural cleaners you will
need to combine all the following ingredients in one spray bottle – ¼ cup
rubbing alcohol, 1 tablespoon cornstarch, ¼ cup white vinegar, 2 cups
water and if you want to you can also add a few drops of essential oil.
This mixture is highly effective window/glass cleaner and can’t have no
harmful effect to your baby(even if he tries to lick the cleaned surface).

Can’t forget to mention the recipe for removing stains, because let’s
face it- they are everywhere when baby’s on board. Here hydrogen peroxide
plays a main role, because of it’s incredible stain removing powers. You
should also try the mixture of washing soda and white vinegar- simply
sprinkle some soda on the stain and spray it with a mixture of white
vinegar and water with ratio 1:1.

And for the toughest stains we suggest a more complicated mixture, but
still as organic: 2/3 dish detergent, 2/3 cup of ammonia, 6 tablespoons
baking soda and 2 cups of warm water. Assemble all of these into a spray
bottle then spray action follows, wait for a few minutes and end with
regular laundering.

Those DIY natural cleaning solutions are not good just for your baby, but
also for you- one can never be too careful with what he uses to clean
around the house!

This Post was Brought to you by Zowie. Zowie Ashton is from London and her hobby is to write articles and
guides related to parenting and cleaning.  She runs a small company and loves to travel with her awesome family.

 

 

People rarely care what kind of product they use to clean at home, most of them barely pay attention to all the harmful chemicals in the structure of their cleaners, but once you have a child you will try to start paying more attention to what kind of cleaning recipes you apply at home to keep baby safe.

What it’s like When Your Baby Refuses the Bottle

Ah do you here that? Someone else is feeding the baby at 4am, you get to close your eyes a little longer! Except not because your baby refuses to eat from anything else except your boob. It can be exhausting and lonely even though you know it is good for your baby and you feel bad admitting otherwise, but its ok to.

Do you want to know how much money I have spent on bottles? Well don’t worry I am not going to add it all up, because I am pretty sure I do not want to know the total costs. Especially since it has been all for not. After all the money I have spent on countless brands of bottles, my baby still arches her back, screaming hysterically, and flailing arms and legs, turning beet red when given bottle. Clearly, not ideal!

While I absolutely love that I am able to successfully breastfeed my daughter, it would be nice to get a bit of extra sleep just one night while someone gives her the 4am bottle. I love her snuggles during that time, but if I could just run to the store and leave her with dad or grandma and grandpa without fearing her getting hungry and no way to nourish her.

It definitely makes things interesting and challenging. And exhausting. It can be lonely. Especially if you aren’t comfortable breastfeeding in front of others so you retreat to the bedroom at home, the car if you’re out, or if you’re lucky enough that the place your at has a nursing mom’s room. If only your baby would just take a bottle you could let someone else bond with the baby in that special way. You could shower without the baby having to be asleep. You could run a quick errand, get a massage, a manicure, or a much needed Starbucks!

But we are told we are the lucky ones. We can breastfeed. Our babies latch great, we make plenty of milk, we may even have a supply in the freezer hoping that one day baby will wake up and forget she hates her bottle. But sometimes, it does not feel so lucky that there is no break for us.

Now I know I am lucky, our breastfeeding relationship is great. At almost 5 months old we are going strong, with clearly no signs of stopping. Almost half way to our goal. I also know that I am lucky in that because I am blessed enough to stay home with her, there is no pressure to take a bottle other than convenience for me.

When we are told we are the lucky ones, it can feel stifling like we can’t wish for things to be different.

Ah do you here that? Someone else is feeding the baby at 4am, you get to close your eyes a little longer! Except not because your baby refuses to eat from anything else except your boob. It can be exhausting and lonely even though you know it is good for your baby and you feel bad admitting otherwise, but its ok to.

Must Haves For Baby Sleep

Baby sleep sounds like an oxymoron, but it doesn't have to be. Sometimes all you need to help your baby sleep is a bit of preparation and a few basic essentials you too can help your baby get some good sleep.

Baby Sleep… It sounds like a bit of an oxymoron to some. Even though all newborns seem to do is sleep, you some how managed to only ever be exhausted. That is because babies sleep only a couple hours at a time, which means you only have a couple hours of a time to sleep. And if you are anything like me, you don’t fall asleep quite as fast as your newborn. Or if your baby is like mine their favorite place to sleep is on top of you and so you never manage to get in a good nap along with them.

Now I am not going to pretend to be any sort of baby sleep expert. While my baby sleeps pretty good most nights at 4 months, we definitely don’t have nap times down pat. She naps in the car, she naps on me and will fall asleep briefly when I lay her in bed if I nurse her. But at nights she wakes once to eat between 4 and 5, and then again at 6 or 7 then sleeps till about 9am.

But we struggle greatly with nap times. I have a couple theories about why that is. With such a tiny house it is hard to get our room quiet enough, it is bright and sunny in the room which also makes it warm and it is nearly impossible to cool it down and get it dark.

But it also leads me to conclusion that what I am doing at night that fixes those things really are working.

So here are my top items to help my baby sleep:

1. Sound Machine

We keep a sound machine running in the bedroom. I like to use the ocean sounds. To me it is the most soothing white noise so I can still sleep while it blows out all the background noise of sirens, cars, and shouts throughout the neighborhoods.

This one has six different sounds you can choose from so you can choose the one that is right for you and your baby! Babies are so used to constant sound that silence can actually make it harder for them to sleep. Before babies are born they never experience silence as the inside of our bodies are quite noisy with all the blood rushing through the veins and arteries. That is why shushing helps. So yo prevent you from having to spend your evening making sushing sounds to help baby sleep, invest in one of these to help!

2. Sleep Sacks and Swaddles

Babies are not supposed to sleep with lose blankets to help reduce the risk of SIDS, but you also want to help keep them warm throughout the night. Also my baby is very active so having a sleep sack helps keeps her legs from flailing and keeping her awake. When she was itty bitty we used the zipper sleep pods, then because she was a very long baby she lengthed out of them pretty quickly so we moved to the velcro sleep swaddles. Then when she needed her arms out we moved to sleep sacks. It keeps her warm and I think it helps weigh downs her legs so she doesn’t lay in her bed and continue to play with her feet when she should be napping.

3. Pacifiers-

Ok, so I know not all babies take a pacifier, some never will. And that is ok. But if your baby does it can help so much. My baby loves her pacifier and often time when she is nursing at night she falls asleep when she unlatches she will often start rooting around. Not because she is still hungry but because she loves to suck- it is kinda what babies do. When I offer her the pacifier she takes it and drifts right off to sleep.

4. Full Belly

Babies sleep so much better when their bellies are full. However your schedule works whether you nurse the baby to sleep or feed her, get her ready for bed and then lay her down, just make sure that the last feeding of the night is a full feeding and baby has a full tummy. This will help baby sleep longer at night because they won’t be hungry as quickly.

5. Darkness-

This is probably the number one reason why my baby sleeps so great at night and hardly at all during the day. No matter what I do, I cannot make her bedroom dark in the day and keep it cool enough for her to sleep. If I close the windows the room will be super hot, and then she won’t be comfortable, but light streams into the room with them open.

And Snuggles.

When all else fails I know it can make the days long, and the nights even longer. But they are only that little for that day. When they wake up they will be bigger than you remember from the day before. And one day they won’t need or want your cuddles to fall asleep. So if you can just snuggle them. Baby’s crave physical contact. It makes them feel safe and secure and will in turn sleep better. And then as if the baby is a stick of dynamite, move them into their own bed as carefully as humanly possible! And with a little bit of luck hopefully you will get some sleep too!

 

Baby sleep sounds like an oxymoron, but it doesn't have to be. Sometimes all you need to help your baby sleep is a bit of preparation and a few basic essentials you too can help your baby get some good sleep.

What was in my Hopsital Bag & What I Actually Used

I read so many check lists of what I should back in my labor hospital bag! So here is what I took, and what I actually used out of my bag!

So I haven’t written about my birth experience. But I wanted to share what I packed in my Hospital bags and what I actually used.

In preparing for the hospital I spent so much time on Pinterest and Read boards trying to figure out exactly what I needed to pack in my hospital bag. After reading what seemed to be 100s of blogs I came up with my check lists.

I decided the best way to do it was to pack to separate bags- one for the labor and delivery part of my stay, and one for the recovery part of my stay. That way I wasn’t moving too much stuff across the hospital during my stay. I could leave my recovery bag in the car until I was moved.

So here is what was in my Labor and Delivery Bag:

  1. Essential Oils and Diffuser. I brought Peppermint, Lemon, Orange, Lavender, and Young Living’s Gentle Baby Oils. I also brought a blend I made in a roller bottle that is supposed to help support Labor and can be applied to the flex points on your inner ankles. Even though I am very open to and will likely use medications in my labor process, I also wanted to supplement with natural means as well. I did use my diffuser, but I only diffused Gentle Baby during labor. It was honestly too much to think to change scents. So pick a favorite and stick to that
  2. Camera and Charger. I definitely want some pictures of when I first meet her and so I have my camera so my mom can capture some of those moments for me. My camera definitely got used, but not enough to need the charger since it was fully charged. More pictures were taken on my phone and my moms.
  3. Cell phone and charger. If I am given the opportunity hopefully I will be able to talk to my hubby throughout some of the process.
  4. DVDs to distract myself. This was definitely helpful at the beginning, but after a certain point I was in too much pain to pay any attention to it and turned it off.
  5. A robe and slippers. This will allow me to walk around during labor without exposing myself. Didn’t use this in labor but definitely came in handy during recovery.
  6. A sports bra to wear in the shower if I decide to labor in the shower at all.  Couldn’t get out of bed.
  7. Vasaline for my lips. I’ve read labor can really dry your lips out.  A definite YES!
  8. Face wipes. I bought the Neutrogena Grapefruit face wipes. For me they have a ver cooling effect and will be refreshing.  Another Definite YES!

In my Recovery Bag:

  1. I will keep my slippers and Robe with me in my recovery room from my L&D bag
  2. I will also keep my diffuser especially to difuse Gentle Baby in my recovery Room. I will also have another roller ball blend of Fennel and Clary Sage to help my milk come in.
  3. Multiple sleep nursing bras I just wore one nursing night gown the whole time since I was only in recovery room one night.
  4. Nursing night gowns
  5. Granny Panties to wear on the way home So glad I had these to wear home. I wore them over the mesh undies to keep them in place!
  6. Toiletries so I can shower Never showered 
  7. A dark colored towel- I bought the cheapest one I could find a Target so when it gets ruined, I won’t mind
  8. Boppy Pillow So helpful in my sleepless state to start nursing
  9. Pillow from home Loved having my own pillow
  10. Socks
  11. Milk Makers Tea and Granola Bars
  12. Earth Mom New Momma Bottom Spray
  13. Nipple Cream
  14. Nursing tank and leggings or a maxi skirt to wear home. I wore a night gown home!
For Baby:
  1. A few different home coming outfits in different sizes.
  2. Larger Muslin swaddle blankets- I find them so much easier than the small hospital receiving blankets to swaddle.
  3. Water Wipes- my hospital does not provide wipes, but does provide diapers.
  4. Socks and a hat for the ride home.
  5. Car seat (obviously)

I read so many check lists of what I should back in my labor hospital bag! So here is what I took, and what I actually used out of my bag!

Celebrating Baby’s First Christmas

This year our family is excited to celebrate Baby's First Christmas! Here are some ways we are going to include her in our new traditions!

What a time of celebration!! Baby’s first Christmas. Such a fun milestone for baby, no matter how little they are when Christmas arrives. This year will be baby’s first christmas at just a few weeks old! And I can’t wait to celebrate in all the glory it will be! I have been shopping for her Christmas presents for a few weeks now. Of course since she is only a few weeks old she will have no clue they are Christmas presents, and they are all toys she would have gotten from us to begin with! But still it’s fun for me to shop for her in that way.

So what are some of the greatest ways to celebrate Baby’s First Christmas?

  1. Pictures with Santa! I went and found her a cute Christmas outfit for her to wear for Christmas pictures with Santa. Yes she will only be a few weeks old, but maybe that means we can get at least one Santa picture where she isn’t screaming her head off at a stranger!
  2. Picking out perfect Christmas dress for Christmas Eve Church. The Christmas Eve Carol Candle-Light service is one of my favorite services of the year. I love it. And in the south dressing up in your Christmas best is second only to Easter. So finding a cute Christmas dress is a fun thing to do in preparing for Baby’s First Christmas
  3. Christmas Jammies. Baby’s spend so much time in their jammies in the first couple months so what could be better than adorable Christmas jammies for a baby!
  4. Using baby’s hand and foot prints to make adorable Christmas memory keepsakes!

First Holidays are so much fun to experience. And this one was so much fun to celebrate with friends and family!

This year our family is excited to celebrate Baby's First Christmas! Here are some ways we are going to include her in our new traditions!

Third Trimester Bump-Date

As my first pregnancy ends I wanted to share the ups and downs of my third trimester! How her nursery came along & all the highlights!

I can’t believe I have made it to my due date so quickly! As my third trimester comes to a close I wanted to share how the last three months of this pregnancy have gone! Its been both challenging and fun! But I am so excited to meet our Little Miss, so whenever she wants to make her debut, we are ready for!

The Last Move

The start of this trimester marked the final move of the pregnancy! I started my third trimester by saying “see you later” to my hubby as we flew off in opposite directions! It was incredibly emotional for both of us. But after we made it to our destinations it was much easier to keep going (because he had to for work & I needed to find my new normal).

Being where I was finally going to bring baby home I was able to start getting my room ready for her! Finally letting my nesting instincts come out! Wanting to buy everything at once has been my biggest struggle! I was so ready to have stuff all set up! However, I managed to slow myself down and do it piecemeal. After all when I arrived I still had 3 whole months left! For the small room that I have to share with her I am so excited about how it turned out. Check out our shared bedroom & nursery! I love the way the colors can be subtle and adult, but also fun for a baby girl! Plus everything can be reused for her toddler room once we make it to our next location.

Just look at how cute I was able to make the room!

Plus, my dad has been so helpful in helping me hang up everything and build all the baby gear! Definitely could not have done that all by myself!

My Pregnancy Health

Health wise I have been lucky in that I have a super healthy baby! Everything has been going great. I have of course had my hiccups. Unfortunantly one isn’t such a small hiccup. At 24 weeks I failed my 1 hour glucose test and was called back in. At 26 weeks I failed the 3 hour glucose test! Despite everyone telling me that I was going to be just fine, that plenty of people have to take the three hour test and never actually get diagnosed with GD.

Well I guess I was just wasn’t one of those people. I have been lucky that I have been able to manage my GD with diet. I didn’t have to take any medications or insulin to help manage my blood sugar. But it has taken great creativity to find ways to curb my sweet cravings- I definitely miss ice cream!! It has been really hard since fall approached in full swing as pumpkin treats are one of my favorites, and they are all super sugary and carby!

Because of the Gestational Diabetes the growth of our Little Miss has been monitored pretty closely to make sure she isn’t getting too big, too fast! Its been fun to get to see her and check on her every few weeks! Even though I know she is always healthy because her movements are constant if I am sitting still for more than 5 minutes!

As I get closer to the end of my pregnancy they grow more and more worried that she will be too large to deliver vaginally. At 32 weeks she was 5lbs, measuring 3 weeks ahead. At 36 weeks she was still 3 weeks ahead weighing 8.5lbs. So they are bringing me back at 39 weeks to check her size one more time before delivery. They are worried her size will be too big. However, they don’t induce labor for large babies.

Because of this I have been doing a lot of research on c-sections since this was not part of my plan originally.

But pricking my finger 4 times a day has definitely not been the highlight of this pregnancy!

My Birth Plan

I also attended a Child Birth Class at the Hospital at my mom’s instance. It was there I learned that I had completely ignored the childbirth part of pregnancy and in my mind always skipped over it straight to the baby being born. I think it’s because I knew my hubby would not be around for her birth and that scared me so I just chose not to acknowledge it. Now that it is so close I have had no choice but to begin to acknowledge the birthing process. Of course just as I began to come up with a plan (As quickly and painlessly as possible- I am terrified of the pain!!), a planned c-section became an option on the table due to Baby L’s supposedly large size!

Highlight of the Third Trimester

The highlight of my third trimester has definitely been getting my maternity photos done. I had them done around 33-34 weeks. I wanted to have a clear belly, but I could see the swelling starting to creep up and wanted to feel great in my pictures! Especially since I am planning to do them on the beach! I mean when in Hawaii, you have to do your pictures on the beach! Here are some of my favorites!!

                          

 

My photographer did an awesome job and I am so pleased with how they turned out.

Some other highlights have been getting to see her squishy little face on the ultrasounds as they monitor her growth. While I would totally give up the extra ultrasounds if it meant I didn’t have to go through GD, I love that I get those little extra moments with her!

But as the pregnancy draws to a close I have some final reflections I want to share:

Even though it hasn’t always been easy, I have loved being pregnant.

As you have read in previous posts and this one as well, my pregnancy hasn’t been the smoothest, or always easy. I was so sick in the beginning, emotionally it was hard knowing our family would be separated for almost her whole first year of life, diagnosed with GD, and back pain. But I wouldn’t trade any of these things! I have loved being pregnant, even when its been hard. I was so excited when I got to the 2nd trimester and pregnancy felt like what I always had imagined. And while we aren’t planning to have another any time soon, I know I will look forward to it all again. Even the constant rib kicks, because they let me know she is doing ok!

As much as I have loved Pregnancy I think I will love being a mom so much more!

All of this has prepared me so much for the challenges that might arrive in motherhood. But I think it will be so much sweeter than this time has been. I can’t wait to cradle her, hold her, snuggle her! I can’t wait to introduce her to family and watch them love her! She is already so loved! And I can’t wait for her to feel that!

As my first pregnancy ends I wanted to share the ups and downs of my third trimester! How her nursery came along & all the highlights!

IF you are new to the blog and wanna check out the rest of my pregnancy journey see my first and second trimester Bump-dates!

What is on my Baby Registry

One of the things I was most excited about doing during pregnancy was putting together my baby registry. There are so many components! Here's what I picked!

One of the things I was most excited to do during my pregnancy was making my baby registries! I love browsing baby registries to find the perfect gift for my friends showers! So I couldn’t wait to get started on my own baby registry! I even started before we knew if we were having a boy or a girl, picking out gender neutral items.

I decided to make two registries (see why multiple registries are handy here): Target and Amazon. And between the two I was definitely able to find everything I needed for reasonable prices. Knowing I would not be able to furnish an entire nursery, would have limited storage space and would be sharing a room with baby the first year I chose space conscious, multi purpose items whenever I could.

What I am using as a Crib & Bassinet:

To save space in my room- I knew I wouldn’t have room for a full size crib I found The Graco Travel Lite Crib . It has stages so it can accommodate baby as she grows!

And then for a bassinet I found the Graco DreamGlider that is a two for one item! It is a swing and a bassinet! The back can be moved to an incline for babies that have acid reflux! In all my years as a nanny, no piece of baby gear ever saved me more than the swing, so I was definitely putting one of these on my registry.

Since the crib is an odd shape, I found these sheets and waterproof liners that will fit the mini pack n play! Mine and babies room will be grey and pink, with mint details and flowers. So these grey sheets work perfectly for her bed too! The Kushies Baby Bassinet Fitted Sheet fit and are so cute, plus being 100% cotton will keep her cool in the warm Hawaiian weather. Munchkin Waterproof Changing Pad will protect both the swinging bassinet and the pack n play in even of a blowout!

                                   

Car seat and Stroller:

I had read so many great things about the Chicco Keyfit car seat. So off to the baby store I went to try out how easy it was to lift the car seat, how heavy it was and more. And when I liked it I decided to check out the stroller that went with it! It folds easily and small, and is fairly light. So I chose the Chicco Bravo Trio Travel System to easily meet all my needs! The Keyfit car seat is the number one safety rated car seat across numerous panels including Consumer Report! A baby seat is namely about safety and so I feel confident in choosing this one! If you need more convincing just check out some of the reviews on Amazon!

Play Gym & Toys:

Because I knew I wasn’t going to have a full nursery and I would be saving money from not having to buy a crib, a glider, changing table due to lack of space I thought I might be able to splurge a little bit in some other areas! Like the play gym I picked out. It is the Infantino Grow-with-Me Playtime Teepee. Just look at how cute it is!

I think she will love it, and as she gets bigger we can remove the mobile and she can have a fun play space!

Baby Bath:

Originally I wanted to get a sink bath support since the house is small, and doesn’t have a lot of storage space. Normally those are smaller and take up less space and I figured this would be our best bet. But, the kitchen has no counter space and the bathroom sink has no vanity. So we decided that a smaller tub I can put in the big tub will be the best bet. Then I save money by only having to buy one baby bath. Because I have seen it in action, used it, and its collapsible I picked the Stokke Flexi Bath with Newborn Support.

And then to save my knees and elbows I found these two products! I love the what theme going on with baby bath supplies. For my knees I am getting the Milliard Bath Kneeler Cushion Mat and for an elbow rest, Skip Hop Moby Bath Elbow Saver. I think these will make bath time easier on me!

Baby Carriers:

I was a nanny and a baby sitter for nearly 12 years at this point in my life! So I have tried a lot of baby carriers out. And my favorite is the Baby Tula Ergonomic Baby Carrier! It is so comfortable to wear, wasn’t hard on my back and is cute too! Since you have to purchase an infant insert to support them as newborns I wanted a wrap style a carrier instead for the early weeks. I decided to try the Baby K’tan Original Baby Carrier. I wasn’t excited about the moby wrap and trying to figure out how to wrap it on my own. But the baby K’Tan is based on your t-shirt size so it is already more fitted to my size.

A baby carrier was important to have because my hubby won’t be home during her first year. I can use the carrier so I can get chores around the house done, like laundry.

Nursing Essentials:

I plan to breastfeed our little one when she arrives and so being prepared to nurse was important to me! My favorite nursing bras are the Gilligan and O’Malley brand from Target! They are affordable and so comfortable! I may never go back to wearing an underwire bra again!!

But I wanted to make sure I was prepared as possible so I also went for a Boppy Nursing Pillow on recommendations from family! I know babies make a lot of mess- from leaking diapers to blowouts and spit up, so I wanted to protect the boppy so I could save it for future babies with a Boppy Water Resistant Protective Cover and a washable cover in a fun color, Boppy Pillow Slipcover Trellis Turquoise.

Beside a nursing pillow I wanted to be prepared with breast pads. I got some Medela Washable Bra Pads, and UpSpring All Natural Nipple Balm so that I don’t have to remember to wipe it off before each feeding. I also have already had some tenderness, so I’m worried about the level of sensitivity and tenderness at the beginning. These heating pearls by Lansinoh TheraPearls should provide relief.

Diaper Bag:

The diaper bag is another item I picked out because I had used it while babysitting. It is cute enough to use as your every day bag. Plus its roomy with lots of pockets. The Skip Hop Baby Duo Diaper Bag w/ Mat can double as my purse, meaning I only have to carry one bag. As a bonus it has a changing mat for public bathrooms. And can easily hang on the back handles of the stroller so I won’t have to carry it while pushing her around!

So there you have it! All the basics on my baby registry! I am so excited to be setting up the nursery and getting to start using all these baby products soon! Be on the look out for reviews of them as I get to use them more!

 

What were your favorite registry items?

One of the things I was most excited about doing during pregnancy was putting together my baby registry. There are so many components! Here's what I picked!

How Nesting is Preparing me For Breastfeeding

One area my nesting has centered around is breastfeeding preparation. I wanted to share some of the ways I am preparing to breastfeed with all of you!

A few weeks ago I wrote about my nesting instincts and all the ways I was working on getting ready for our Little Miss before we made it to Hawaii and I could start getting her nursery/my room all set up! Now that I have just two short months left till we meet her, I am nesting in a whole new way! One of the biggest things I am preparing for her arrival is preparing to breastfeed!

I have heard stories that run the gamut.  From being super easy- latching for baby is easy and happens quickly, milk supply comes in easy and in full force. All the way to struggling with latch and supply issues. I know there is no real way to prepare for breastfeeding. So much is dependent on your baby, you just have no idea what will happen. I am trying to educate myself as much as possible. And have as many tools at my disposal as I can to begin with. This includes a determination to breastfeed, and tools like a nursing pillow, nipple balm, and lactation teas and treats.

I want to share a little bit about how I am preparing to be able to breastfeed.

I set up my Registries to Promote Breastfeeding Success.

From the beginning I knew that I wanted to breastfeed my baby if we are able to do so! Of course, if she is having health issues and we struggle then I am totally open to formula or exclusively pump. But it is my goal to breastfeed for the first year. So, when I started setting up my registry I added breastfeeding essentials to my registry.  I registered for a boppy pillow, nnipple balm, nursing cover, nursing pads- disposable and washable, and a rocker to comfortably nurse in. Another essential piece of baby gear that is often recommended to promote breastfeeding is a baby carrier. I also registered from lactation tea and goodies- cookies and granola bars that had good recommendations.

These are not items that many people purchase as shower gifts. However, having them on the registry will help you feel prepared; just like purchasing bottles and formula will help you feel prepared to feed your baby that way.

Another essential tool for breastfeeding is a good nursing bra and nursing tanks. I have purchased a couple of nursing bras from Target and some tanks from Motherhood Maternity; but there are so many options out there.

I’m sure all you mamas-to-be out there know how daunting it can be to try and pick out a nursing bra before you’ve started your breastfeeding journey, so I wanted to share a new option that’s on the market. ThirdLove recently released their nursing bra collection and it looks as cute and stylish as it is functional! Their nursing bras come in wired and wireless versions so you can find something that works for you no matter your preference. It’s nice to be able to stock up on both styles so that once baby comes you can test out which works best for you. Don’t forget that your size is probably going to fluctuate once you’re nursing, so have a variety of sizes on hand to avoid squeezing into a bra that’s suddenly way too small!

I spend time Researching

As a blogger, one of the first places I turned to for information (other than friends and family) was the internet and other bloggers. Reading firsthand accounts about what made their breastfeeding journey a success or failure really helped me nail down what I needed to do to start my journey out on the right foot. So I went and bought the recommended books other bloggers shared. I added the products they wished they had to my registry to keep track of the best tools I needed to succeed.

One of the most popular books was the ­The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding that is put out by the La Leche League. It is a comprehensive manual that includes trouble shooting for when issues arise. I also plan to register and for a breastfeeding class at the local hospital. They talk about latch, storing pumped milk, and other breastfeeding essentials.

 

I talked to Friends and Family

As a part of my research I reached out to friends and family members that have breastfed their babies. They told me about their favorite nursing bras, how they kept track of feeding schedules. They told me which were their favorite nipple creams from natural coconut oil based products to lanolin. What I learned was that what works for one might not work for everyone. But, there are so many options out there that everyone can find something that works for them.

Another friend who is big into natural wellness suggested the use of essential oils. Fennel and Clary Sage are both great essential oils for helping establish your supply. I plan to ask about this at the breastfeeding class.

I Choose a Baby-Friendly Hospital

OK, now I know being on military insurance that I didn’t have a great deal of choice in where I would deliver my baby. But there are a lot of things that Tripler Army Medical Center does to promote breastfeeding success. If there are no required medical interventions necessary from mom or baby then skin to skin is immediate. I will immediately be handed baby to hold and try to nurse her.

After I am moved to the mother-baby recovery unit, then baby remains in the room with me. This promotes nursing success because baby is right there. I won’t have to wait for the nurses to bring her to me to nurse her. This will help me identify her feeding cues even early on. Breastfeeding works on a supply and demand schedule, and so the more I nurse the more supply I will make.

Furthermore, while I am in the recovery unit, I will have access to a lactation consultant. She will be able to help me assess baby’s latch and guide me on nursing positions that will work for us and other helpful tips.

I also plan to take my lactation teas and cookies & granola bars to the hospital with me so that I can begin using them right away. I have heard this is the best way to establish a good supply.

Like preparing for anything as a new mom there is only so much preparation I can do.

Everything will depend on how baby is when she arrives, but I am a planner. Since breastfeeding is important to me I am preparing the best I can. As a SAHM I don’t have to worry about the stresses working moms have when it comes to breastfeeding. I also have a supportive community behind me. My hubby is supportive (even from afar!). My parents who will be primary supports are also supportive. They purchased the rocker for their living room for me to nurse in.  Preparation is key and I can’t wait for her arrival so I can start my breastfeeding journey!

One area my nesting has centered around is breastfeeding preparation. I wanted to share some of the ways I am preparing to breastfeed with all of you!

Baby Proofing Your Marriage

Becoming a parent is a huge shift in your marriage! But it shouldn't detract from the intimacy between you and your spouse!

We’ve all heard it said that your marriage is more important after you have children, not less. Yet, there has been a huge shift in parenting over the last several years in which we are always putting our children first.

The reason our marriages matter more after children is because our marriage is a model of what healthy relationships look like. And parenting children is so much easier when you are a team. And being a co-parenting team is much easier when you have a solid spousal relationship. Always remember that before you were a mom and dad, you were a husband and wife.

While I was working in the Chaplain’s office at Ft. Benning I read And Baby Makes Three: The Six-Step Plan for Preserving Marital Intimacy and Rekindling Romance After Baby Arrives by John Gottman. I liked it so much that it’s a book I highly recommend to all parents and parents to be (I even list it on my resource page!)

I value Gottman’s insights on marriage and so I really took some of his principles to heart in preparation for when we had our own kids. And it sure is coming in handy now! Gottman has Six Steps for Maintaining Romance After Children. Who doesn’t want to keep that spark alive? Nobody goes into having children intending to neglect their marriage. But during the new born phase so much of a new parents’ life begins to revolve around the new baby. The new baby’s eating schedule, sleeping schedule. And suddenly the intimacy and closeness between husband and wife begins to decrease. It just happens.

Maintaining the same level of romance and intimacy takes a lot of work. Here are just a few of the steps he recommends for maintaining Intimacy and Romance in your marriage:

  • Soften how you bring up a problem
  • The importance of repair
  • Accepting influence
  • Savoring your friendship
  • Giving Grace

Giving Grace

It is not about avoiding problems that may come up as new parents, but finding positive strategies to manage the problems as they occur. Tensions can begin to run high in the first few months home with a new baby. Neither parent is particularly experienced or confident in their parenting abilities. This insecurity can make emotions run high. New moms have a surge of hormones to top it all off making them even more prone to being emotional. Lack of sleep also contributes to the rise in tensions in the home. Nobody can function at their best when they are being awoken every two to four hours.

So small events may turn into larger disruptions than might be normal. When this happens remember to give yourself grace. And to give your partner grace.

Giving your partner grace can be more difficult for new moms. New moms may not see how the transition for their partner is as difficult for dad as it is for mom. New moms, especially those who nurse are now the primary source of survival for a new born and are often still struggling with postpartum symptoms. But both new Mom and Dad need grace during the transition into parenthood. Grace can help promote intimacy in your marriage because it will prevent harboring resentment. Resentment prevents intimacy because it allows there to be separation within the marriage. Resentment can build up walls. Walls up = no intimacy.

Importance of Repair

Because tensions run high during the transition from a two person family to a three person family, repair attempts are so important. Why? Because we may often hurt our spouse’s feelings. Making and accepting repair attempts is more telling of relationship satisfaction than how many arguments a couple has. But it is not enough for one person to constantly be making repair attempts; the other must accept them. By accepting the repair attempt you are coming back together and creating more intimacy. When you reject your partner’s repair attempt you are putting up a wall between you. This prevents intimacy from growing in your marriage.

Savoring Your Friendship

Remember what brought ya’ll together as a couple to begin with. Most likely it has something to do with a friendship that was cultivated. During the postpartum period sexual intimacy is off the table. So finding old ways to create intimacy is important. At the beginning of your relationship, most likely sex was no the element of your relationship that created intimacy. Most often intimacy is created through friendship which leads to a more sexually intimate relationship. Get back to basics and by spending time together you can help maintain levels of intimacy in your relationship. While you may not be able to find time to get away and spend one on one time with your spouse, spending time together as a new family can help you maintain your friendship. It is a way to create new memories and experiences together.

This is just a way to start maintaining intimacy in your relationship after the newest addition has arrived. If you are looking for more information check out Gottman’s book And Baby Makes Three. He has such relevant information for new parents!

Becoming a parent is a huge shift in your marriage! But it shouldn't detract from the intimacy between you and your spouse!

What to do when you Can’t Nest

One classic phenomenon in pregnancy is the desire to clean and prepare the house for baby, but what if you are pregnant and aren't where baby will make his or her appearance? Here are some ways to fulfill the need to nest when you can't do it physically.

I have always been super excited to decorate my baby’s nursery long before we had our first positive pregnancy test, to be honest, well before we even decided to start trying for a baby! I had a secret Pinterest board full of baby nursery ideas for both boys and girls! Of course soon after I found out I was pregnant I realized I wouldn’t be decorating any nursery! To say I was a little disappointed might be an understatement, but I quickly moved past it, and started dreaming about ways I could make a wonderful shared space for baby and I at my parents’ house! But dream is all I can do until I am more than seven months pregnant and starting my third trimester!

Not all pregnant women experience the phenomenon of nesting, but it is the intense feeling of wanting to clean and prepare your home for baby’s arrival. And all women experience at different points in the pregnancy. But I am a prepare-er, so I feel like I have felt this instinct since fairly early in the pregnancy, but without being able to really do much to prepare for her arrival since I had two moves to get through between when I found out I was pregnant and when our little Miss will finally make her arrival! This hit especially hard after the baby showers! I had all this cute baby stuff and all I could do was put it in boxes and suitcases as I prepared to fly to Hawaii.

For Military wives we may not always get the opportunity to nest in the traditional sense, maybe our nesting instincts get sublimated into a pack out and move out cleaning. Maybe we know we will be moving within a couple months of baby’s arrival and so we don’t want to put so much energy into making a Pinterest worthy nursery! Maybe we are living in a hotel waiting for housing at a new duty station when our next bundle of joy arrives. Whatever the case is, we can find ways to direct that energy and make the best out of it!

While I know the urge to nest typically hits the hardest towards the end of the pregnancy, it still has been challenging to be able to do so little to prepare for baby early. So here are some things I am doing to help ease my anxiety before I have a physical place to prepare:

  1. Ordering bigger pieces of gear and having them sent to my parents’ house. By having some of the bigger items already waiting for me it will be easier to set up the room when I get there with minimal rearranging once my bed is purchased (better believe that is the first stop we are making on the way back from the airport!). Since her bassinet and crib (A Graco dream glider bassinet and swing in one; and Graco travel lite crib with stages pack n play) are already at the house I can sleep easier knowing that should she make an early arrival she will have a place to stay.
  2. Lots of online research. I spent so much time researching the best baby items for small spaces. I have known since the beginning of the pregnancy that me and baby would share the one extra bedroom at my parents’ house for just about her whole first year! So, finding products that served multiple purposes, were small/portable and most space effective were so important to me. Thank goodness for Google and Pinterest. It made it so much easier to decide exactly which products I needed. Also, it was helpful to feel like I was picking out strollers and car seats without having to purchase and then transport large items. I now know exactly what I want and can order it as soon as I get there.
  3. Thankfully I am going to be living with my mom and dad, so I can send them hunting for items on island to get for me, so they will be ready for me when I get there. I can go to my local Target here look at it all and then send my mom the link so she can find it at her local Target! She can do that with baby items too! I have sent her to her Target with my baby registry so she can tell me which items are more expensive at her local target so that I can get those before I get there or order online instead of paying for the island mark-up!
  4. And finally, spend countless hours envisioning the space. Since my parents have been there for the last 8 or so years I have spent a great deal of time at their house for vacations even though I have never lived there. So making layouts of the room in my head has been helpful so when I get there, if I am too big to move it all around myself I can direct my dad with how I want everything to be!

So while I may not be able to nest in a traditional sense, I have found ways I can prepare for baby and reduce my anxiety so I don’t feel pressured to have everything done in the first few days upon arrival!

What are some of the non-traditional ways you have nested in preparation for your new addition?

One classic phenomenon in pregnancy is the desire to clean and prepare the house for baby, but what if you are pregnant and aren't where baby will make his or her appearance? Here are some ways to fulfill the need to nest when you can't do it physically.