Before I was pregnant I spent years and years babysitting. And during those years I discovered the beauty of baby wearing! It made chasing other kids so much easier! Have a toddler want to get out of the house but have a little one to watch too? Pop that baby in the carrier and chase the toddler around wearing him out!
So when I found out I was pregnant I was so excite to get to wear my own baby! But until she was here I just didn’t understand how big a part of my life it was going to be! As ya’ll know my hubby has been in Korea for most of baby’s first year, and although I live with my parents I know its not their job and responsibility to watch my baby all the time or to clean up after me. But being the only parent around the house day in and day out, my little girl has become quite clingy and only wants to be with mom a good part of the day.
Don’t get my wrong I love the cuddles, but it makes it very difficult to get anything done if every time I leave the room she screams! Which let me tell you, definitely happens! That meant every time I needed to pee, make food, do dishes, hang laundry, get laundry off the line, I was greeted by sad cries of my little girl!
But soon after actually using them when she was just a couple months old, my collection quickly grew because I realized just how valuable this baby item was to my sanity!
Why baby wearing saved my sanity this deployment
Anyone who has spent any amount of time (whether a weekend or a year) Solo Parenting know that if there are kids in the house it can become difficult to get chores done, dinner made, or even just give your arms a break for a hot minute! When your solo parenting stent is a bit shorter it can be more justifiable to let housework wait, and eat take out for a couple days. But when you’re solo-parenting for a whole year, these things are just unavoidable.
I got chores done!
I tried everything to keep her contained to do chores. I tried doing them during naps and she would wake up, I tried putting her in the highchair with a toy- she screamed; I put her in the exersaucer where she could see me- and she screamed. One day I gave up, popped her in the carrier and realized I was able to do so much all without her screaming! It was a game-changer!
Not only could I clean my floors, hang laundry, and take the dog out; but, when she’s on my back I can even do dishes & prep and to some degree cook dinner! And more than that! She was so so happy to be hanging with mom
I get out of the house
When you’re the only parent while running errands it can get tricky! Especially when baby was itty bitty and couldn’t sit up in the cart babywearing was the only way to effectively grocery shop because otherwise the carseat took up the whole cart and I couldn’t push the stroller and a cart by myself.
Even more than errands- going to the beach, or other fun outings were made so much simpler than having to lug the stroller, which inevitably she would want out of and carried around leaving me to hold her one handed and push the stroller one handed.
Also it made travel solo internationally so simple!
It helped me heal
Due to some circumstances with her birth I was experiencing a lot of pain in my hand and wrist. Leaving me feeling like my wrist was weak and might snap while picking her up. Obviously, this is problematic when you’re the only parent around. With a newborn this can be hard because they want to be carried and cuddled. I didn’t want to deny her any cuddles, but some days is really was painful. BUT with the baby carrier she be cuddled up close to me without using my hand!
Baby wearing is my deployment hack when home solo parenting with a baby and even a toddler! I would love to hear your deployment parenting hacks? How do you get stuff done? Share your wisdom before I have to do this again!